Arranging a Marriage in India Four Levels and Question Answers 
Four Levels of Arranging a Marriage in India
1. LITERAL COMPREHENSION :
U.S brought up Serena Nanda has frequently visited India to fulfill her field work. She has great interest to know about Indian culture, custom, tradition, norms and habit. Unlike her America, In India, arrange marriage is famous. In the beginning, for her, this type of marriage is oppressive and thinks that how a girl without knowing her life partner can marry. In Indian, children's wedding occurs from the compromised between their parents. Most of children follow what their parents do. They know that parents are experienced in this case. So that, they wouldn't get problem of divorce and dispute each other in the future. But in America love marriage is famous. So, initially Serena feels uneasy in the arrange marriage. Serena met many Indian marriageable children and also many couples. Once, she met a girl, Sita for whom her parents were arranging a marriage. She was a collage graduate student in political science. She also expressed that searching a boy for her was the job of her parents because they were more experienced than her. In India, Serena had a closed friend and her friend had an unmarried son. The son was very handsome and educated but the problem was that he was black and little bit short. Her friend searched many girls but each time, she got a defect on the girl. She wanted to make her daughter-in-law who was highly educated, whose parents had good social status, who did not go out side alone and it would be also good if she were the single daughter of the family. The writer also playing the role of match making informed her to get marry her son with a girl whose parents were socially respected and their daughter was beautiful and educated. Her parents also would not allow her to go outside alone. At last with that girl, her friend's son got marry.
2.INTERPRETATION :
This autobiographical writing tells us the value of arrange marriage in India. In this type of marriage, parents search the suitable candidate to get marry for their kids. In such situation, children accept parents' decision. They know that their parents always do better for them because they are more experienced. Instead of taking hasty decision and remorsing later, they obey what their parents say. Parents do not force them to marry if they find any defect on the boys or girls. Similarly, parents always chose perspective son-in-law or daughter-in-law according to their social and economic status, caste and religion. Unlike love match, there are many advantages in this marriage. Firstly, there are the less possibilities of pre- sexual intercourse between them, that they will be saved from social scandal. In the same way, there is also less possibilities of divorce. In arrange marriage, children are not permitted to stay together before marriage. After marriage, they make sexual relationship. Then there will not be the problem of unwanted babies and unwed mothers.
3.CRITICAL THINKING :
Time is changeable and every thing changes along with the time. In this recent time, in India concept of arrange marriage has been changed because Indian people are going to be westernized. It does not mean that there is not any practice of arrange marriage, but love marriage is being famous in India. Unlike Nanda's visit of India, in the present time, many teenagers prefer marring with love match because it is said that there will be more understanding. So in India, from the school life, many kids make the girl friends and boy friends. After completion of their school study, they prefer to study in the same college and in college they behave each other as if they are husband and wife. So in India, unlike Nanda's time, love marriage is getting popularity.
4.ASSIMILATION :
I like arrange marriage because parents are experienced and what kinds of step they take upon their kids always will be reliable, so parents should search good boys or girls for their children. Actually in love marriage, there is great possibility of divorce in comparison with arrange marriage. For example, in European countries, love marriage is quite famous but there is greater number of divorce between husband and wife. So I support the arrange marriage too much because it is most of times benefits for married couples.
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Question Answers of Arranging a Marriage in India
Q.1. Read Nanda's essay in connection with Chinua Achebe's ' Marriage is a Private Affair'. Who do you think Dr. Nanda would support: Okeke or his son? Why?
ANSWER : Nanada initially as she came in India, she was the great supporter of love marriage but she later on knew the value of arrange marriage. So, if she read the story "Marriage is a Private Affair", she would really support Nnaemeka's father, Okeke who wants to get marriage his son according to his tradition. He was the man of orthodox who believe in arrange marriage. For him girl should be his own caste and also should be the same religion, i.e., Christian.
Although the writer is an American, later on when she came to India, she had met many Indian people and found the importance of arrange marriage, so she certainly support the Okeke who is in favour of arrange marriage and she may not support the Nene and Nnaemeka's love marriage.
Q.2. Dr. Nanda wrote 'Arranging a Marriage in India' in 1992, stating that, at that time, "In India all marriages are arranged," to the best of your knowledge, is this still true of India?
ANSWER : Time is changeable and every thing changes along with the time. In this recent time, in India concept of arrange marriage has been changed because Indian people are going to be westernized. It does not mean that there is not any practice of arrange marriage, but love marriage is being famous in India. Unlike Nanda's visit of India, in the present time, many teenagers prefer marring with love match because it is said that there will be more understanding. So in India, from the school life, many kids make the girl friends and boy friends. After completion of their school study, they prefer to study in the same college and in college they behave each other as if they are husband and wife. So in India, unlike Nanda's time, love marriage is getting popularity.
Q.3. What is about Nepal? Are most Nepali marriages still arranged?
ANSWER : In fact, In Nepal both kinds of marriage are in existence. It may be the reason that city people are going to be westernized because of the different types of TV channels. In town, it is getting its popularity. But it does not mean that all the marriages in town are based on love marriage but arrange is also there but in comparison with love marriage, it is decreasing its popularity.
On the other hand, still in village, arrange marriage is quite popular. Village boys and girls before getting marriage, they did not talk because of the fear of their parents and society. Their marriages happen according to
their parent's consent and what the parents do and choose for them, they generally accept but in some cases, if they find any defect on boy or girl, parents do not force them to marry. Then they search another bride or bridegroom.
In conclusion, in town, the love marriage is gaining its popularity while in village arrange marriage is still quite popular.
Q.4. What are the historical roots for the preference lighter skin?
ANSWER : In the past, European felt superior among other non whites because they have the white skin and would hate many Africans who had the black skin. So in the name of skin color, white could feel superior. In the long course of time, the color discrimination existed in America. To maintain their superiority, whites would bring the issues of skin color and made inferior to black. In the name of colour discrimination in America, in the past, many civil wars had occurred.
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